My Top 5 Tips for a Healthy Family

I would like to start this blog by giving a bit of a background on myself. Me and my sister were raised by my mother who was a widow at the early stages of her life. She worked very hard to give us the best she could give. Be it on getting a good education or having good food or clothing , she always tried her best to give us the best childhood. She taught me the importance of living in the moment and not to worry much about the future. She is the one person I look up to and am always grateful for the hardships she had to go through to make me who I am now. So here is the list of my top 5 tips for a healthy family and what I believe are the most important factors to consider while pursuing a flying family life.

1. Failures are just lessons

Raising your kids to make decisions on their own and not being scared of failures is key to great heights. I think, it’s important for them to realise that failures is not a bad thing while they are just lessons for them to stream line their future decisions. These days, people are so concerned about failures and thus missing out on the best things in their life because of the potential future failures and anxiety. Fail Fast and thus learn faster – is a good way to move forward.

I would encourage you to read the book “Power of Now” that was reviewed by us recently and you can find a short glimpse of the top 5 quotes in here . It’s not worth worrying about the future or the past as we don’t have control over both. But the best part is , you can control what you are about to do and each time you make a decision, the future changes. Making decisions and having that sense of achievement is a great way to increase the confidence of your kids and of-course for your own benefit too.

2. Encourage Hobbies

Hobbies are an incredible part of childhood. Encourage them to learn musical instruments, sports, dancing or reading books etc. These hobbies are going to support them throughout their life regardless of happy or sad times.

These days, there are so much of online materials out there and sources to learn new things, for eg :- learning piano. I have been using the best online piano tutorial called Flowkey for the past 6 months and it has been serving me well. I wish I had this earlier. It can take you from scratch to become an intermediate piano player.

3. Family Time

Spend time with family/kids as much as possible as I would always say “Life is too short”. Have trips with family and make good memories to cherish at a later point of your age. It doesn’t necessarily have to be always travelling though. Instead, some of the best activities to spend quality time are : going for a walk together, cooking, playing games, eating homemade food, spend less time on social media 🙂 , supporting them on their educational activities, doing some charity works along with them etc.

4. Set an example

Parents play an important role in bringing up their children by leading them and becoming their first role model. A lot of traits are being imitated by the kids while they grow up. So be mindful while they are around. Teach them to be kind and respectful by acting as such. It can only work by being the role model rather than by giving a bunch of advice (An act can replace a thousand words apparently). Train them on how to manage time and stress so they are prepared for their turn.

One last thing I like to mention in this section is really about how we all think. As far as I know, just like the coin have its 2 sides, everything we face in life has a positive and negative side. Question is when you are given a half glass of water – Do you see that the glass is half empty or do you see it half full. I guess you got my point! It is certainly the way we perceive and respond to anything. So I reckon we should strive to see what’s there instead of what’s not there.

5. Practice Reading

Having a set time for reading is an awesome habit that I feel everyone’s kids should have. Books are an incredible source of knowledge which some of our good elders have researched and written it to share with us. They have done the home work and we just need to read them 🙂 “It’s that simple!!!” . If physical books are not a convenient way, why not switch to the digital version. I myself use the Amazon Kindle which is such a good alternative digital format. The convenience of using Kindle is such that you get to use one small device for thousands of books along with the possibility of using audible (audio books) while driving or cooking.

My Top 5 Secrets to a Healthy Relationship

Below are my top 5 secrets to a healthy relationship although not limited to – 

1. Have Fun

Having fun together is the most important driver of a “healthy relationship”. It doesn’t matter in which direction it goes, wherever life takes you, have fun together and be there for each other. 

If not fun, then why would you be in a relationship with this awesome person in the first place? My favourites in this category are playing Fifa with my wife even though I lose almost all the time (ohh!!! tell me about it), spontaneous drives to random places, playing tennis, visiting new countries, trying out different cuisines and the list goes on (check out recent drive to hamburg).

Scientific studies show that having fun and a good laugh with each other increases your levels of happy hormones, thus making you want to have more fun. Happy hormones I mentioned above are Dopamine, Serotonin, Oxytocin, Endorphins; if you want to learn more 😉

2. Respect

By treating my partner just like how I want to be treated. As an individual, we all have different likes and dislikes and don’t necessarily know everything about our partner in the first place. You will know them by time. So take time to understand them and react accordingly is my go to strategy :).

Giving her the space when needed and allowing my partner to have her own time in her space and thoughts. I certainly don’t want to be around her all the time because I myself will have my “me time”, which I do want as well (Check out my top 5 hobbies)

Respect her needs and expect nothing back although by time it does become a habit of having higher expectations. I, at least, expect the minimum, which puts me in a safe place.

3. Patience

Think before you act : it’s very hard to  think when stressed or tensed but I take the time to think what will be the effect of my next action or words as the wise people say “A word of mouth and your last breath cannot be taken back”.

I have my own way of doing things and it’s not easy to change but I do believe that patience will bring in a common ground where both of us are comfortable.

4. Say Sorry

Don’t let the ego take the lead – A sorry would not hurt but will most probably make your day better and earn you respect. Apparently, it doesn’t need to be in words, sometimes, a simple hug can do the trick.

Sometimes, it’s no one’s fault and most of the time, the fights are too silly and not even worth the fight at all. Think about the best time you could’ve been having but instead, you’re wasting it fighting. So be brave guys and go ahead and fix it. The earlier the better as the time goes by, it gets harder to fix.

We practice a policy of no fights go to the next day, which has worked perfectly so far.

5. Eat Together

Cook and eat together with love and at the same time respect the food you are about to have.  It’s one of the best things you could do together. Sharing food and eating together have a big effect on the relationship. Somehow when people eat together and share food, unlike any other things you do, there is some kind of an indescribable connection, which cannot be explained.